I understand that you are hesitant to blame her for the error and believe that there may have been a misunderstanding between her and others. You also mention potential faults in our messenger and the wording of our letter. However, you struggle to overlook the possibility that she deliberately disobeyed orders.
While I cannot speak to specific instances where she may have let you or the people down, it is important to approach this situation with fairness and open-mindedness. Instead of immediately assuming her guilt, it would be beneficial to gather more information and have a conversation with her to understand her perspective.
Jumping to conclusions based on assumptions or biases, such as her gender or status as a princess, is not a fair approach. It is important to treat everyone with equal respect and hold them accountable based on their actions and evidence.
Ultimately, it is crucial to communicate openly and honestly with her to address the issue at hand and find a resolution.